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Spotting a Jerk on a First Date

by Vicki Karigiannis
published August 28, 2009

rating: (66 Ratings)

Sometimes, it’s very hard to know if the guy you’re seeing is a loser. He may put on a “nice-guy” persona in the beginning, but won’t reveal his true self until a few dates in. Want to find out what he’s like from the get-go, before you waste time and energy on a dud? Read on for four ways to spot his jerk-factor on the first date!

He treats the waiter with disrespect. The way he treats other people is very telling of his personality. If your server gets him the wrong drink or forgets his starter salad, check for his reaction. Is he understanding and blasé about these mistakes? Or does he get irate and go on and on about the waiter’s ineptitude for the rest of the evening? If it’s the latter, be ready to bolt.

His eyes and mind wander. If a guy is really into meeting and getting to know you, he’ll be hanging on your every word and asking you questions. If you sense his attention isn’t all there (i.e. he asks you to repeat yourself, has an empty look on his face) and he’s checking out his surroundings instead of you, cut him loose.

He’s more interested in himself than you. Yes, you want to hear anecdotes about him. Yes, you want to get to know him. But is he doing all the talking, waxing poetic about how awesome he is, without letting you get a word in edgewise? (Except for, of course, agreeing on how great he is.) If so, he could care less about getting to know you.

He “forgot” his wallet. Whether you assumed he’d pay, you’d split the bill, or figured you’d be paying since you did the asking out (you are a modern woman, after all), the fact that he didn’t come with cash means he pretty much was banking on you footing the bill. In short: he is a moocher and you don’t need him. (He’s an even bigger jerk if he orders the most expensive item off the menu before admitting his wallet-less state.)

Tag(s): love, dating, first date

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miss_kris
August 29, 2009 at 10:37 am

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How about when you meet a guy who claims (quite seriously) that he's here to save the world from armageddon, and that the world's people should be his followers? LOL. I wish I were kidding.