5 ways you know it's over
It’s nice to be one-half of a successful relationship but sometimes things can unexpectedly change right before your eyes. Many couples fail to see the signs of a dwindling relationship—or just turn a blind eye to their problems—but sometimes, calling it quits is the best thing you can do for both you and your man. Here, we’ve got five ways to know it’s really over.
Your relationship isn’t based on anything deep. When you and your man’s relationship goes from being one of similar and meaningful interests to one of superficial things like sex and partying, you know that the solid foundation of your couple has disappeared. Most couples require similar values, interests and the like to have something stable that keeps them bound together in a long-term commitment. Other insignificant things don’t have the power to keep couples together for too long.
You’re not physically attracted to one another anymore. Sex is an important aspect of any relationship, so it goes without saying that you need to still look at your partner and feel that yearning. This doesn’t necessarily mean that his physical appearance changed—he may still look exactly as he did when you first met him—but that there’s simply nothing there that makes you “want” him anymore. Of course, instances of sex can also decrease as you get older, but by that point the dynamics of your relationship have evolved; it is a sign of a bigger problem when you’re still in a “fresh” relationship.
You can’t communicate. Integral to any healthy relationship, an inability to communicate (or even a refusal to work on it) can be damaging to a couple. Being able to express things like fears and desires to your partner shows that you’re able to trust and be honest with one another. A loss of that can be very damaging.
Your needs aren’t being met. We all want to get what we want (within reason, of course), whether it’s from an emotional perspective, or a physical one. Those needs that are essential to a relationship—emotional support, a helping hand, a non-judgmental ear, fulfilled sexual desires, to name a few—must be met (and reciprocated) so that both partners feel that they are part of a loving and equal relationship.
You realize you both want different things. This can be a hard one to admit, but can often be the realization a twosome needs to end things. Many couples can be on similar life paths for a long while before they end up veering towards different directions. When you both want different things in life and there’s no compromise in sight, it may be best to continue towards those destinations separately.