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Six Signs You’re in a Bad Relationship

by Ariane Boisvert
published March 09, 2012

rating: (98 Ratings)

What if he is the problem?

You believe you’ve found the ideal guy. He’s cute, cultivated, passionate… perfect in every sense of the word, really. But, you’ve got a gnawing feeling in your stomach that something’s off. Being the relationship advice buff that you are, you’ve examined your own feelings and behaviours, but nothing has come up. So why the sudden doubt? It’s time for you to examine your beau’s conduct.

He has a split personality

Him: Affectionate and charming one minute, he suddenly becomes cold and distant the next. He encourages you to go out with your friends one evening, but turns into a jealous beast the following day. He admits to his contradictory behaviour, even going as far as to offer you a present as an apology, but goes back to his old ways as soon as the opportunity presents itself.

You: Not knowing how to broach the subject with him, you always fear his reaction. Remember that bad habits are hard to quit, and that desperately trying to change your partner often leads to disappointment.

He is not attentive to your needs

Him: He doesn’t hesitate to put a stop to your conversations or intimate moments to answer his phone, and talk to no end. He can talk about anything, but seems incapable of taking interest in your past, or something as simple as your day. Truth be told, he isn’t really looking to get to know you better.

You: The unpleasant impression that you’re somehow boring or uninteresting creeps in. Act quickly to ensure your self-esteem doesn’t take a hit!

He disregards your feelings

Him: In addition to failing to master the basic rules of chivalry, he sometimes has no respect for you. He lacks empathy when you are sad, or shows little joy when you succeed. Worst of all, he continues to flirt with his female “friends”, even in your presence. In short, he becomes mean whenever the mood strikes him.

You: You attempt to discuss the matter with him, but he trivializes his inappropriate behaviour every time. Act quickly before your heart gets broken, which will take long to piece back together.

He makes empty promises

Him: He talks about future plans that will never see the light of day. The trip to the country he’s been promising you for the last six months? Well, he’s just pushed it back for the umpteenth time. Moreover, he’s become the master of last-minute cancellations. Still, he can’t stop talking about his plans for the future, in which you never seem to hold a primary place.

You: Because you’re fed up of constantly being disappointed, it’s time for you to shape your own destiny. And surprise him by taking action!

His professions of love for you are ambiguous

Him: To say, “You’re lucky I love you. I don’t know anyone who could put up with someone like you” is his idea of declaring his love for you. When you question him about his feelings, he’s either evasive, or dodges the question altogether. In short, he issues his most passionate declarations only when on the verge of an orgasm.

You: Don’t waste your breath or your romantic inclinations. The man you need will not only know how to make you feel loved, but also how to make you feel unique, something this fake Casanova seems incapable of doing.

His desires are not clear

Him: Your passionate verbal exchanges can last all night long, but once you ask for hugs and kisses, the mood suddenly falls flat. Beyond the bedroom, he doesn’t try to touch you, such as simply holding your hand. With an exasperated tone in his voice, he criticizes you for constantly begging for kisses, and deems you have an unappeasable libido.

You: While you’re far from being a nymphomaniac, you’re beginning to doubt this man’s power of seduction. Let him know that you’re not looking for a friend, but rather a lover who isn’t made of ice.

Perhaps you’ll notice your sweetie demonstrates some of the personality traits above. Don’t panic! Does he routinely demonstrate this type of behaviour, or could it be that he is going through a stressful period in his life? All relationships go through ups and downs. What matters is to love the other for who they really are, all the while remaining attentive to your own well-being. It’s all about respect!

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