I Love Me, and My Sweetie!

It only makes sense that you must be happy with yourself before you can even think of being happy with someone else. This means loving yourself as you are and being confident in your capabilities. Whatever your relationship status, boost your self-esteem with our tips and improve your love life.

Self-esteem and relationships

If you’ve recently broken up with someone, you may feel that your self-esteem has taken a big hit. This is the time to rebuild your confidence before you can move on to another relationship.

If you’ve been single for quite a while, being happy with yourself will make your life more fulfilling, so take advantage of your independence rather than suffer from it.

If you are currently in a relationship, good self-esteem will allow you to have a healthy, loving relationship with your partner. By being confident in yourself (and, consequently, confident in your relationship) will help you avoid pangs of jealousy, or fear that he may leave you at any moment.

Self-esteem boosters

Do something you’re good at. To build up your confidence, pick up an activity or hobby that you love and that you know you’ll excel in. It may be stroking your ego a bit, but succeeding in an activity you enjoy will really do wonders for your self-confidence.

Challenge yourself. Give yourself some challenges, both personal and professional. You’ll have an enormous sense of pride once the tasks have been accomplished. These challenges will also make you stronger and allow you to better face difficulties in the future.

Accept compliments. Stop being modest, and accept any compliment that comes your way. If you’re being complimented, it is because you’ve earned it! Fight the urge to contest kind words—just smile and say “thank you”.

Compliment yourself! Stop waiting after other people, and tell yourself daily how pretty, smart or funny you are. You don’t need to brag about your talents to others; but you can definitely tell them to yourself! Jot down all your great qualities and praise yourself over them. Take a few minutes to look into the mirror to tell yourself how sexy you look in your new, lacy underwear or how hot you are with that new haircut.

Don’t let anyone make you doubt yourself. Don’t ever let anyone (including your guy) make you question your self-worth. Those who don’t respect you and make you doubt yourself really aren’t worth your time.

Keep a journal. At the end of each day, make sure to answer a few questions in your journal. How did you feel today, and why? Focus on the positive side of things by writing about three accomplishments that day that you are proud of. What are the things for which you are grateful? Who are the people who helped you or were good to you today? By jotting them down and reading them over, it’ll make you more conscious of the good things in your life.

Call your biggest fan at least once a day. Of course you’ve got fans! There are people in your life who admire and look up to you. Think of a friend, or maybe your mother—no matter whom—and give her a call at least once every day. We promise you’ll better about yourself once you’ve hung up the phone.

Take care of yourself. Getting a new haircut or treating yourself to a new pair of shoes won’t solve all your problems, but it’s these little acts that will impact how you see yourself, as well as how others view you. If you neglect yourself, your self-esteem will hit bottom and you’ll be more likely to let others belittle you. Take a few extra minutes in the morning to put on some lipstick and style your hair. You’ll feel replenished and confident!