Successful Flirting Tips

You and your friends are headed for a Girls’ Night Out, filled with yummy drinks, good conversation… and a potential to pick up a telephone number or two! Be sure to successfully catch the attention of any man you fancy by following these 10 flirting tips!

1. Walk tall. The second you enter the room, be sure to put your best foot forward. Walk in with your head held high, emanating an air of confidence as if you own the room. 

2. Look your best. When getting ready for your night out, be sure to dress in a way that’ll garner attention. Be sure to wear clothes that highlight your best features, such as your shoulders or your chest; just don’t overdo it with a too-short skirt or an ultra-revealing top.

3. Don’t stare. When scanning a room, be sure to gaze for a few seconds at the cutie at the bar, smile when he catches your eye, and look away. Do not stare, as that could frighten your conquest rather than charm him.

4. Don’t look aggressive. Crossing your arms around your body, or keeping your hands close to your chest are signals telling men to back off. Look inviting: have your arms hanging loosely by your side, and cross your legs with your toes pointing in the direction of the object of your attention.

5. Look him in the eyes. When he’s finally joined you and you’re chatting, be sure to look him in the eyes. Do not avert your gaze or look downwards, as that could give him the wrong signal that you’re bored or uninterested.

6. Smile. This is self-explanatory: you smile when you’re having a good time, so this will definitely show him that you’re interested in him and what he has to say. We’re sure you’ll be having a good time, so ensure it’s a genuine, wide smile that reaches up to your shining, happy eyes. If it’s a tight-lipped, fake smile, he’ll notice.

7. Touch him. While we’re not telling you to pet him inappropriately or encroach on his space, when sitting closely in conversation, do lightly touch or graze his hand or forearm across the table. Be sure to keep it light and brief and only use your fingertips; a bar is not quite the appropriate setting for longer, deeper touches just yet.

8. Take a compliment. If you’re a naturally shy person, it’s pretty easy to shrug off a compliment or refute it with a negative comment. If he compliments you on your hair, smile, thank him genuinely and continue the conversation you were having. Don’t think you’re sounding vain by thanking him, and don’t feel you have to reciprocate; he most probably wasn’t fishing for a compliment himself.

9. Have something to say. You’re likely a very interesting person, so we’re sure you won’t get caught with nothing to say. But we all get nervous and stumble, so be sure to at least ask him the 5Ws (who, what, where, when, why) on any subject he brings up. You won’t appear nosy, but interested. Conversation will flow easily from there.

10. React. Any movement you make should be in reaction to his. If he smiles wide, be sure to smile back. If his eyes seem very interested in what you’re saying, be sure to continue with your story. In the same vein, if you notice in his features that he is not that interested, you’ll know you’ll have to move on.