Secrets You Can Keep

When you’re part of a couple, total honesty and communication is the best way to achieve bliss and understanding. With that said, you are entitled to certain little secrets, so long as they are innocent and not damaging to your relationship. Read up on the things that you’re allowed to keep hush-hush!

Your number of past sex partners. So you may have skimped on the exact number of lovers by a figure when your guy recently asked. You can be honest and reveal the big number; it’s in the past, after all, and it shouldn’t affect your relationship. If he seems like the type who would get weirded out that you have had more partners than him, however, then what he doesn’t know won’t hurt him.

The guy who taught you how to do that trick. You know your man loves that thing you do with your tongue… What he doesn’t know is that your last boyfriend loved it as well, and helped solidify it as the man-pleaser it is today. So when he breathlessly asks where on earth you learned to do that, just feign ignorance and keep at it.

The things you do to keep yourself pretty. Okay, so you’re not a natural blonde. And you get a Brazilian bikini wax every other week. And you had to have laser surgery to remove Tom’s name from your shoulder. We women do plenty of things to ensure we look perfect for ourselves and for our men; we just don’t need to tell them the means it takes to reach said perfection! We end up looking all the more beautiful to him if he doesn’t know, anyway.

You actually don’t hate his tastes in music, movies, and so on. Couples don’t have to agree on everything and like the same things. You sometimes moan and groan whenever that X-Men movie is on (again) or he’s watching the hockey game. He expects it from you but, really, you don’t mind. You could easily just live harmoniously and happily do his fave things together, but you find it more amusing to disagree with him and to watch him get exasperated with you.

You keep in touch with old boyfriends. Exes are a touchy subject, so we’re not advising you lie to your guy. If your relationship is in a secure place, the ‘to tell or not to tell’ debate should be non-existent, and you’ll know to use your judgement. In that vein, you don’t have to let him know Every. Single. Time. you speak with an ex, much like you don’t keep your current beau apprised whenever you get in touch with a girlfriend. However, if you feel compelled to keep it a secret because you’re afraid of your guy’s reaction, then don’t; just tell him to avoid a fight. And then get working on those trust issues.

You get hit on during girls’ night out. You’re out with the girls while he’s out with the guys. There’s drinking, laughter and fun… and that table of guys that bought you a round. It was harmless, really, and you hardly ever flirt back. Your guy, however, may not see it that way; since all you got out of it was a free drink, it’s barely worth mentioning.