Ending Couple Conflict, Articles, Sex & Love

Arguments are bound to occur in any stable relationship. From fighting over him not picking up his socks to the fact that his mother seems way too involved in your relationship—or even having one of your fervent political debates—there’s always a way to ensure the argument moves along, and ends, smoothly. Read up on our eight ways to ending an argument and maybe even coming out the winner!

1. Listen. You won’t get anywhere in an argument if you don’t pay attention to your guy’s side of things. If it is evident to him that you’re not listening, your guy will think that you’re not taking the disagreement seriously, and that clearly shows that you have no interest in resolving the problem. Be sure to look him in the eye when talking, and listen attentively when he’s speaking to you.

2. Be calm. It is tempting to want to defend your side loudly and passionately. However, don’t get too riled up. Your guy will certainly notice if you lose your cool, and that will certainly not help your cause. Maintain a composed exterior—even if you’re losing it on the inside—and you will be surprised at how confident you’ll end up sounding, rather than desperate.

3. Back up your side. If you’re passionate about your side of the argument, then you have to be ready to defend it as much as you can. For each objection, have a counter-attack at-the-ready; for each question, be sure to have a sound answer. The more you know, and are confident about your side of the argument, the more legitimate you will sound.

4. Give him “the look”. He knows the look; the one that means he is in big trouble. One flash of that withering glare and arched eyebrow may have him waving that white flag in no time.

5. Take a breather. When you feel that your argument has been going around in circles, it’s more than alright to pause it for a while. Go your separate ways to take in your discussion and contemplate if you’re close to reaching a resolution. A long walk will clear your head and help you decide if the argument’s worth continuing—or leave you ready for round two, at least.

6. Compromise. In any argument, there doesn’t always have to be someone who loses out against the winner. To ensure that you’re both winners, why not try and reach a compromise? If you’re bickering over the fact that you want to take dance lessons together, for example, offer to join him in an activity of his choice. After all, relationships are all about giving a little and sacrificing some things.

7. Be the bigger person. So you know you’re right and he’s wrong—he probably knows it, too, but refuses to let up and give up his pride. If you really want an end to the discussion, just let him think that he succeeded. It may not feel as good as outwardly winning, but you’ll know inside… and that may be a satisfying enough!

8. Cap it off with sex. A romp in the sack is the perfect way to celebrate the successful end to any spat—big or small! You will easily forget the ugliness had ever occurred and, at that instance, you both come out winners.