Stop Being Needy

Co-dependence in a relationship is not healthy, and if you’re the type who clings to her man for approval and fulfillment, you should think about changing your behaviour. Check out some signs that may imply you’re the needy type and ways you can become confident and self-assured!

·         You’re jealous of his female friends—and male friends, for that matter.

·         You call or text him numerous times a day.

·         You need to know where he is and whom he’s with at all times.

·         You freak out if he doesn’t call when he said he would.

·         You pressure him into making commitments.

·         You’re constantly trying to please him.

·         You always wait for him to make plans rather than take initiative.

Avoid calling numerous times per day. If you want to speak to your guy every day just to see how he’s doing or have something important to discuss, that’s fine. Be sure, however, to not be the type of woman who needs to speak to her man numerous times daily or who feels the need to check up on him every hour.

Stop looking for reassurance. A sure sign of neediness is always seeking reassurance from your man. Don’t constantly ask him “Do you think I’m attractive?” or “Do you love me?” Not constantly needing validation is a sign of confidence, which is a turn-on for guys. Besides, if he truly didn’t love you, he wouldn’t be with you.

Don’t be joined at the hip. When you’re out together at a pub or a party, don’t feel you have to stick by each other the entire night. You are separate entities after all, so circulate the room, chat it up with friends and acquaintances, and occasionally flash him a smile or a wink from across the room.

Make your own plans. When your guy is out with his buddies or away on business, don’t be the kind of woman who would rather sulk at home rather than have some fun. Don’t make yourself available and don’t drop existing plans just to hang out with him. Go out with the gals; if he calls while you’re out, you’ll just get back to him later on.

Find something you are passionate about. A needy person feels as if their lover is their all, their reason for living. Find something beyond your relationship that makes you happy, such as your job, your friends or a hobby. Being fulfilled by something other than a relationship helps a person gain confidence and feel they have a full life; so if ever you and your man do part ways, you won’t feel as if your world had ended, since you have other great things going for you.

Rationalize it. A clingy person will likely take one small thing and blow it out of proportion. Before you work yourself in a tizzy as to why, for example, your guy isn’t calling you back, step back and think of a rational reason beyond “He’s breaking up with me!” Doing so will keep you from going crazy and slowly help curb your distrust and worrying.