How Not to Say 'I Love You'

If you’re in a new relationship and feeling as though those three magic words are just around the corner, know that there are some things it may be best not to do when saying them for the first time. Read below for five don’ts when it comes to saying “I love you”.

Don’t text it or say it over the phone. Further into your relationship, you’ll be able to end phone and e-mail conversations with a simple “I love you.” In the beginning, be sure the first time is exchanged face-to-face, as it’ll be all the more meaningful.

Don’t say it drunkenly. When saying these words for the first time, it’s best you are 100% sober. It’s unlikely your man will take your words seriously when you’re in s drunken state, which could cause hurt and confusion— definitely not something you want.

Don’t omit any words. “Love ya!” makes it sound too casual, and responding in kind with “I love you, too,” only validates his words instead of making it sound like they came from you. So don’t leave any room for interpretation and say “I love you” in full.

Don’t say it if you don’t feel it yet. Some people may feel forced to say it because their significant other said it first. However, people move at different paces in a relationship, so it’s normal if your guy feels it and you’re not quite sure yet. Although don’t break it to him like that; be gentle, perhaps letting him know that you care about him so much and have strong feelings for him. The words will come, and he’ll appreciate it when you eventually say them and actually feel them fully.

Don’t expect it in return. In the same vein, if you say “I love you” first, don’t fully expect your man to say it right then and there. He’ll tell you when he’s ready, and you’ll know he really means it.